True Life: Farmer's Wife

There was an article circulating around Facebook a while back that talked about being married to a farmer. It was pretty much spot on.  It talked about appreciating mother nature, knowing to never plan for things, and constantly seeing the glass half full. Heath and I will be married 7 years this year (11 years, counting our dating years), and I'd have to say it's been rare for me to meet someone outside of the farming community that is truly "team FARMER". One of our local news stations posted a story on the farm bill a while back, and you should've seen the "West Texans" who were ranting about farm subsidies on there. I think Dwight Eisenhower said it best when he said, "Farming looks mighty easy when your plow is a pencil, and you're a thousand miles from a corn field."

This year has been the most trying year yet for me. Yes, even tougher than 2009 when I had a new born, and Heath left the hospital to sand fight and gear up to replant when Luke was a day old. Tougher than 2011 when I had a 2 year old and a 6 week old during harvest. Even tougher than 2012 when we took on land at Olton in June because our tenant bailed on us and didn't harvest an acre of the crop up there that year. I think some of the struggle this year has been because the kids are old enough to try and take advantage of Daddy not being around. Sometimes, I feel like we get to the point where my voice is like white noise to them. Heath can come in after a 15 hour day, and say, "Luke, quit." -- and he does! What? Just like that! No threats with a belt or anything. (To which, depending on the day, my response may be "Hm. Must be nice!" or "Thank goodness you're here, babe.")

Some people might say, "But it's raining! Just what all these farmers have been wanting!" And yeah, it is raining.. and YES.. We. Are. Thankful. I can't even begin to tell you how thankful we are for the rain. When we came home from Kerrville over Spring Break, I can remember the tension in the pickup from Heath the closer we got to Levelland. It wasn't raining, but it was time to go back to work. He had no motivation, no vision for the crop this year. Heath loves what he does. I love that he leaves here every morning pursuing his dream. I think it's so unfortunate for a man to have to work outside of his passion. But the drought had him in a huge funk. The day after we got that first rain in May, Heath's phone was ringing off the wall (haha.. I just typed that and thought.. we don't have wall phones anymore). Everyone he talked to, he said, "This gives us something to swing at, but it doesn't have to do it again." -- I think one of the craziest things was back in the Spring during the drought, and people almost expected us to waiver in our faith because of the lack of rain. And no, we didn't know if it would rain again. We were even starting to lose hope that it ever would... but even if it never did, He was still sovereign in our lives. (There's a biblical story much like this in Daniel 3!)

And the WEEDS. Oh my gosh, the weeds. They're unreal. But plentiful water and no weeds is just too good to be true. This is just a perfect reflection of all of creation being in need of a Savior. Of course the weeds are going to get resistant to the weed killer. There's not an endless amount of water for farmers to access when it doesn't rain, either. Ever since the fall, the ground was cursed. There's no chemical cure for it. (See, how easy it is to reflect back on biblical things when it comes to farming?? That's why faith and farming go hand-in-hand, friends!) Are we dumfounded about round-up not working? No. It was promised to be this way in Genesis 3.

So, I say all of this, not to rant.. not for sympathy.. but more for myself, to acknowledge the valleys of my life. If our lives were all peaks, we wouldn't know to appreciate them. And I think the peaks are sometimes the only things we see on social media.
There's not a day that goes by that I regret marrying a farmer. I love that Heath can make it to most of the activities the kids are involved in... There's nothing like a stroll around the farms in the evenings when the crop looks healthy and a beautiful sunset to top it all off. I LOVE when fall is in the air, and the fields turn white. And I love having a husband that has the drive and determination to provide for us like Heath does. Even through the seasons when it throws us off for him to be home early (early, as in 5:30) and we can never plan a weekend away, much less, a date night.. I wouldn't trade it for anything... Not even a salary, paid vacations, and benefits. :)

Happy #5, Luke!

I officially have my first 5 year old. I'm so proud and so sad at the same time! Luke is truly everything I need to be. He was so happy to be 5! When he woke up on the morning of his birthday, he came into my bathroom and danced around saying, "I'm five! I'm five!"

I think everyone, to some extent, has goals and standards for parenting and raising kids. Luke took this vision I had and fine tuned it for me. He got here and showed me that we'd be figuring this parenting thing out together. He's taught me how to love deeper, have more patience, and to see the world has God's creation, even more so than I did before. 

To celebrate Luke's birthday this year, we had a swimming party at Heath's parents' pool. We had about 25 kids come and swim... It was a good, hot day for it! We are so blessed with friends and family with such sweet kids that all play so well together. 

And to keep up with the tradition, here are Luke's favorites from 3, 4, and now 5! It's fun to see these from year to year. 

(3 years old)

1.     Color? Red

2.     Toy? Buzz, and nother buzz. Two buzzes.

3.     Fruit? Strawvries

4.     Movie? Store Story

5.     Thing to eat for lunch? Spiderman cupcakes

6.     Shirt? Store story shirt

7.     Game? Store Story (wii game)

8.     Snack? Fee Fer Yogurt (Phineas and Ferb)

9.     Animal? I love horseys.

10.  Song? Twinkle Little Star

11.  Book? Store Story book.. It was big. It was square.

12.  Best Friend? My befriend Jaxon

13.  Cereal? Cinn toast crunch

14.  Thing to do outside? Paint

15.  Drink? Chockat Milk

16.  Holiday? Nope

17.  Thing to take to bed? Daddy. Daddy’s big. And I’m big too. Daddy’s bigger.

18.  Breakfast food? Cereal

19.  What was on your birthday cake? Mike the Knight

20.  What do you want to be when you grow up? I be lightning queen.

(4 years old)

1.     Color? Blue

2.     Toy? Batman

3.     Fruit? Grapes

4.     Movie? Wreck it Ralph

5.     Thing to eat for lunch? Sandwich

6.     Shirt? Blue shirt

7.     Game? Monster trucks

8.     Snack? Oatmeal

9.     Animal? Cow

10.  Song? Old McDonald

11.  Book? Store Story

12.  Best Friend? Jaxon

13.  Cereal? Cimmon Toast Crunch

14.  Thing to do outside? Do my spray rig

15.  Drink? Coke

16.  Holiday? Christmas

17.  Thing to take to bed? Buzz

18.  Breakfast food? Oatmeal

19.  What was on your birthday cake? Spiderman and cupcakes spiderman

20.  What do you want to be when you grow up? I wanna be a Firefire (Firefighter).

(5 Years Old)

1.     Color? Orange

2.     Toy? My Danica haule

3.     Fruit? Watermelon (Rawmelon)

4.     Movie? How to Train Your Dragon 2

5.     Thing to eat for lunch? Sandwich

6.     Shirt? Orange Ummerarmour

7.     Game? Nascar

8.     Snack? Vanilla wafers

9.     Animal? Giraffe

10.  Song? Roar

11.  Book? Cars Playset and Disney Infinity

12.  Best Friend? Jaxon and Kegan

13.  Cereal? The same as Daddy – Cimmon Toast Crunch

14.  Thing to do outside? Play with my friends

15.  Drink? Chocolate milk

16.  Holiday? Easter

17.  Thing to take to bed? Jake

18.  Breakfast food? Sausage biscuit

19.  What was on your birthday cake? Nascar

20.  What do you want to be when you grow up? A farmer

Mother's Day Love

This is my favorite annual blog! I am in my comfort zone when writing about loving my kids... Not that I consider myself "good" at it; I just enjoy it!

Being a mom is, by far, the most fulfilling thing in life for me. I can't imagine what I would do without them. I remember getting nervous before Landry was born, in fear that Luke might be getting the shaft. I hear it's natural for that to happen, and so I just prayed my love would grow to accommodate both kids. And GROW it did!! I felt like I loved Luke even deeper after Landry was born... like, her existence grew my ability to love. It was a relief.

So in keeping up with my Mother's Day tradition, here's to my babies.

Luke -

You make me one proud Mama. I love how easy going you are.. You're happy where ever you go. You haven't always been this way.... Ask the nursery workers at church! ;) Your spirit is sweet, and we still try to guard you from hearing too much about the evil things of this world, like on the news, because you have such an innocent perspective. Your superhero phase has already came and went for the most part, and I think it's because of the violence that comes with it. There's always a villain when a superhero is around, and you don't really care for the idea of villains! So for now, your main interests are farming and NASCAR. After Daddy took you to the race, you're like a NASCAR expert. I've heard Daddy tell people you're a bigger fan than he is! 

I have loved seeing your faith grow this year. It thrills my soul for you to be eager to memorize scripture. Your spiritual questions keep me on my toes! There have been a few nights in the past year that I have put you to bed and then gone to my bed and cried to Daddy about what a blessing it is to hear your prayers. You're not shy to pray in public either, and when you do, you're a total farmer's kid and pray for crops and rain. Melts my heart!

You still think Daddy is just "it". You "get" his sense of humor, and you give him that "you're ridiculous" look sometimes when he's being really goofy... which I'm positive you didn't learn from me! ;) Daddy told you a joke when we left SeaWorld over Spring Break, and you couldn't get enough of it. It was, "What do you call it when a whale poops? Sham-poo!" -- You want to use Daddy's cologne when you get ready, and you want to dress like him, too. I've tried to get you to wear sweats to the doctor before, and you won't do it. You have to have your jeans on. I got you to wear sweats to t-ball practice one day, and you insisted I take you home to change before we went somewhere afterwards. 

You've always had an "eager to please" personality. Here lately, you have shown that through doing chores around the house. It doesn't bother you to make your bed (and you're pretty good at it for 4 years old!) or help me pick up. You like holding the door for me and Landry, and you want to help me carry in our groceries. I love this about you because you're setting a good example for your sister! You're one awesome big bubba, and you are my favorite son! 

Landry -

I've said you completed our family since day one, and I still believe this to be true! You are the total opposite of your bubba, and I consider this a blessing! You entertain yourself very well.. You have absolutely no interest in TV, but you will play all day - even if it's by yourself! You stay busy with your babies, cash register, and kitchen. You love when I let you take your baby in her infant seat to the grocery store and let her ride in the basket. And the diaper bag! Can't forget the diaper bag. You are super sassy, and you speak very "matter-of-factly". When you go to Mimi's house, you like to pretend like you're a baby because she has bottles and pacis. You were acting like a baby and not using your words to get what you wanted one day, so when I told you to use your words because you're not a baby, you replied with, "Yes. Me baby 'cause Mimi said me baby." Sassy girl! 

You are very independent. It has never bothered you to be away from me. Luke isn't quite ready to spend the night away with friends, but you beg to go! You have yet to sleep in the bed with me and Daddy. You have tried, but then you ask to go to your bed because you just can't settle. I look forward to the day when you will sleep with me when Daddy is out of town, but I'm also thankful that you love your bed so much! You have always been a good sleeper, and when I wake you up to take Bubba to school, you're smiling before you even open your eyes. I love it! The only thing you think is worth watching is nursery rhymes on YouTube. Every night when we rock, I let you a watch a few. Your favorite is "The Wheels on the Bus". You still sleep in your crib, and I'm not rushing to get rid of it! I asked you one day if you wanted a big girl bed, and you said (again, matter-of-factly), "No. My bed in my room is my big girl bed."

You have never met a stranger. I took you to the mall around Easter, and I almost ran over you because you bailed out of the stroller as soon as you saw the Easter bunny. You loved him! You did the same thing with Elmo at SeaWorld, and you led me across the room to take a picture with the guy in the penguin costume at the Science Spectrum. You're perfectly happy being the only girl in the group with Daddy and his friends. You tend to prefer men over women, but you are a girly girl! You love to have your hair fixed and your nails painted. You don't like leaving the house without a bow. I feel so lucky to have a daughter! You are, without a doubt, my favorite girl. 

 

Rain, Rain, Come our way!

I should write more often so that I don't sit down and draw a blank trying to remember our lives for the last four months! Here's my best shot at it...

We've done a lot of traveling gearing up for Heath's busy time of year again. As a family, we've been to Waco and Kerrville. Heath and I also took separate trips to Las Vegas, and then Heath and Luke took a guys trip to the race at the Texas Motor Speedway. Our kids have grown out of the stage where it's more exhausting than worth it to take them on road trips..... Hallelujah! I mean, I've never wished them to be older.. It happens so fast. But I don't mind only having to stop for occasional potty breaks! In the same breath, though, I could cry at the thought of sending Luke to Kindergarten... Ah! Kindergarten. I'm trying to get used to saying it without getting a lump in my throat.

So, Easter is coming up. It's on April 20th this year, which is the day Heath and I count as the beginning of our dating years... 11 years ago! Easter was on April 20th that year too, so it makes the date a little more special this year. The last 11 years have been nothing but a blessing, and I am thankful of every peak and valley that led us to where we are now. There's just nothing like sharing my life and my kids with my best friend. I told someone the other day that I always knew Heath would be a good daddy, but I never knew he'd adore our kids like he does. Melts my heart.
Speaking of peaks and valleys.... This drought has my guy in a big ol' valley. He's always been passionate about farming, but a 4 year drought will just about drain the passion out of anybody! We need rain! Our poor kids hardly even know what a thunderstorm is. So, if you haven't prayed for rain yet... Please do, for the sanity of these farmers (and their wives) around here!

As for the kids, they're always giving us a reason to smile. Luke's current love language is received through playing Mario Kart on 2 players. He's been on it since Christmas, and I've been antsy for the warm weather to get here and stay here so we don't have to keep resorting to Mario Kart to occupy him. Everyone who walks in the door gets an invite for a race... even grandparents.. and he's pretty relentless! He loves NASCAR more than I ever thought was possible for a 4 year old. Heath said he sat through the whole race and wasn't ready to leave when it was over. His favorite is Danica, and he can tell you all about her. He also started t-ball this year. I think the best thing about t-ball is how cute they look in their uniforms. Ha! I'm enjoying the years of him not caring whether he won or lost! It's funny to me for the parents to care more than the kids do.
Landry is sassier than ever, and if you ever catch us in public, it won't take you long to understand what I'm talking about. Most of the time, she doesn't want to be carried; she'd rather walk.. or strut! She gives the sweetest hugs and kisses, and she has a weird tendency of fake burping around company... I guess it's like a nervous habit? It's funny at times, but it can make a situation awkward when someone is doting on her and she fake burps. Haha. She'll go with anyone, and she still refers to herself as "Nanny". She's still a very picky eater! She is borderline on the charts... So, she'll be doing a feeding camp at Tech this summer. I'm looking forward to seeing how she does in a group setting.

Here's a quick look at our last 4 months!

We went to the zoo in Waco with cousins.

And to Sea World over Spring Break with friends and family.

I got lots of pictures from the guys trip. I couldn't ask for a better group of guys to break Luke in on a trip without Mama!

Mama and Landry had fun too! We went to the science spectrum and Sesame Street Live.. and played with friends and cousins!

And a few more!

2013: Better luck next year!

Wow, what an ending we had to 2013! Since I last posted, we finished up harvesting and celebrated the holidays.... sort of. Our November was pretty rough. The kids both had strep, and Landry had a double ear infection, too, which set her back in her weight gain progress. By Thanksgiving, we all had the stomach bug. On top of that, my new nephew, Gray, got RSV and stayed in the hospital the whole week of Thanksgiving. We didn't even celebrate with Heath's family because Londyn and Gray were cruddy and contagious for a while. Thankfully, we all recovered and were well for Christmas!

Heath and I had a trip planned to Lajitas with a big group during December, but it was cancelled due to weather. I didn't mind all that much that it was cancelled because I was having a lot of anxiety about leaving Landry after her regression from being sick. We ended up going the next weekend to Dallas and meeting up with family to tour the Gaylord ICE exhibit again. It was SO crowded!!! When we went last year, it wasn't bad at all. We thought it could've been worse this year because we went the weekend after Dallas had the snow/ice storm. It was shoulder-to-shoulder the whole way through, and I felt like I couldn't get out of there fast enough! Coming home, we were pulling our camper and trying to get back in time for our church's Christmas program when we ran over a ladder in the middle of the road. The car in front of us swerved around it really quick, and there wasn't any way for us to miss it. When we got home, Heath's new truck had to go into the shop to repair everything the ladder tore up. 

The next weekend, we took our camper out to my parents' house and stayed out there while Jordan and Rachel were in town. It was nice to be able to stay out there and spend good time with them! We had Christmas with my family a few days early since they were in town, and then we had Christmas with Heath's family on Christmas Eve. Christmas Day, we had our own family Christmas, and then we stopped by Ben and Keelee's for brunch with all of their family on our way to Kerrville for some time away. (We have a new camper, so we are taking advantage of using it while work is slow for Heath!) We pulled the camper down there in Heath's old truck since the new truck is still in the shop with the parts on national back order. Yay. When we were 2 miles from Kerrville on the evening of Christmas Day, we lost a wheel off the pickup. I've not had an adrenaline rush like that in a long time! We were on the interstate, and it was dark, and just not a good situation! I've praised Heath over and over for handling everything so well. We were all over the road trying to get stopped, and before we even got off the road, he was assuring me that we were okay. He jumped out and started making phone calls, and I got the kids out of their car seats and held them and cried! Heath's grandparents live at the RV park we were headed to, so they came out and brought a guy to haul the camper to the park. A wrecker came and took the pickup to the shop. Everything worked out that day in the end, but we were both shaken up over it for a while. 

We had friends help us out, too, making things so much easier! A guy coming in to Kerrville from Levelland brought us a set of tires and wheels Heath had at the barn, and Heath had them put on while we were down there. Heath's friend Russ and his family came down and followed us home just to make sure everything was okay. Low and behold, Heath's pickup started messing up, acting like the turbo was going out, so we left the camper in Junction. Heath and Russ went back the next day to bring it home with Russ's truck. 

So, yes! We are glad to have 2013 behind us. I heard someone refer to this year of farming as having three years of weeds in one. I thought that phrase nailed it for us, too. Heath worked so hard and ran himself ragged trying to beat the weeds. I see the drive he has to provide for us, and I admire him for how tirelessly he works while staying devoted to being a good daddy and husband. I've been reading Job this week and was reminded that the Lord doesn't always reward faithfulness in the ways we think He should. This year, the crop wasn't an honest reflection of the work Heath put into it. We are still grateful for how He provided for us. He always does! 

I am, of course, thankful for the progress Landry made in the past year. When I think about how helpless I felt this time last year with her, I can see how the baby steps with her have added up. She is still far from a typical eater, but I have had so much support from friends and family. We still consider our family "normal and healthy", and for this, we are truly blessed.

I never posted Halloween pictures. Here are a few!

Luke's Thanksgiving Feast at school

A few of Elfie's highlights (Can you guess which one Heath did?!) ;)

Luke's Christmas program and party at school -

Here is a YouTube link to a video at his Christmas program http://youtu.be/3tVi951yvIs

Christmas weekend with cousins at my parents' house... Heath has most of the pictures on his phone.

Christmas Eve at Heath's parents' house.

Kerrville -

And a few of my favorites through the holidays!